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I have grieved for Parker. For the childhood she could have and should have had – full of play dates and lessons and running around carefree. For the childhood she ended up with – full of compromises and co-therapy sessions and slowing down so her brother won’t fall. At four years old, she knows what “different” means. What Special Needs are. I have wondered what it will do for her future. Will she need to take care of him? Will he be a burden?
Will she resent him?
I have grieved for Scott. For this man that I have loved from just about our first conversation. A man who takes the weight of the world on his shoulders, then offers to carry your burden as well. He is the epitome of the “strong silent type”. I grieve the family life that he was trying to grow. Now mired in insurance claims, and therapists, and using his vacation days for trips up to Owen’s Neurologist/Ophthalmologist/Genticist/PPT meetings at school. But he goes to all of them. Every single one. I grieve the lifestyle that he has toiled for the past twenty years to build that is now going towards bills and specialists and Special Education Advocates.
But I have never grieved for the child I was going to have.
Because I have Owen. That is the child I’ve been given.
I cannot say why – in my over-thinking, hyper-sensitive and neurotic mind – it had literally never occurred to me that Owen would have or could have been someone else. That he would have had a “normal” life. That at three and a half years old he would now be talking in sentences, and be able to identify even one color consistently, and be able to walk up and down the stairs, and have a real friend.
He has never even had a single play date.
Perhaps, subconsciously, I never let myself go there for fear that I would never climb out of the black hole I was diving into.
I cannot grieve that other child because I don’t know him. I never met him. I never loved him.
And I love my boy. I love him so much that it hurts to consider that there was ever another “Owen” out there that could have been mine. That could have had the easier road in life. That could have had a life where he didn’t have to fight for http://karolazirko.net/life/fen-zakladkami-spb.html every single thing he ever had. Every word. Every step. Where everything came naturally. Where it all came without having to sweat or work. It kills me to think that there was a path for him where one day he just walked, and he started talking, and I wasn’t scared to read what the milestones were supposed to be.
I cannot grieve the child that I thought I was going to have because I never got the chance to imagine him. It all happened so suddenly. I was caught up in the whirlwind of his birth, his fight – hoping that he had a future was more important than what it would look like.
see url I can’t allow myself to fantasize about what his “typical” future could have been like, because I cannot bring myself to think about what his actual future will look like.
What will I need to grieve in the future? Will he have friends? Will people be cruel to him? Make fun of him? Will he even understand it if someone is mocking him? Will he always be “slow”? Delayed? Disabled? Will he have therapy appointments instead of soccer practice? Will he be independent enough to live on his own?
Will somebody ever love him? Will he get to experience that?
It’s okay to grieve the child that you thought you were going to have, because in grieving that, it helps you to celebrate the one that you’ve been given.
I grieve for my son. My daughter. My husband. Myself.
But that other boy… Well, he was never mine.